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Saturday, December 14, 2019

Why are divorces getting common in India?


Why are divorces common in India?
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Lack of patience.
No one is positive or negative, good or bad till eternity. There are phases of positive and negative, good and bad, success and failure, ups and downs.
Life isn't lived in days, weeks, months but years and decades.
Any phase in life doesn't end in a few months, it light take a few years. The current generation that needs instant gratification isn't ready to wait that long.
That lack of patience is because people aren't relaxed.
Lack of spiritual outlook.
People are also more self centered and egoistic. They are earning big and think material luxuries are everything in life.
Lack of purpose.
Before marriage, people hardly see a purpose for marriage. They don't understand why marriage is required. If you ask most people, they'd say they marry for money and SEX.
Joint families replaced by nuclear families.
Its not me vs you. It is always us vs rest.
 We are more weak and negative than our stronger and positive ancestors.
Our culture gives us energy and fitness. Flexibility and silence needs strength, energy, fitness. Lack of which causes ego.
Joint families need a lot of energy, flexibility and silence.
It's a learning ground for team work. What is important is not us individually, but the family as a whole. That obviously involves a lot of compromises that can make some uncomfortable but that is welfare of majority. More than our happiness, what is important is that the family stays together, what is important is happiness of the family.
The day we started delineating from our culture, the day we became weak, the day we started getting negative, cracks started appearing in our joint family structure.
We are more judgemental.
We need to transcend right and wrong.
Corporate Culture
The basis of corporate culture is what's in it for me? A use and throw mentality or hire and fire. Corporate is not a company alone. It can be a person, a nation, a state, a family, anything. Corporate is a system, a mindset. The world's first corporate company was East India Company. We are increasingly imbibing and bringing the corporate mindset of running things into families. Families aren't corporates. They shouldn't be run like corporates. We can't use and throw, productize, commoditize living beings. What the corporate culture misses is happiness, positivity.
What is the solution?
If we observe, the divorce rates are higher among urban people than the rural and semi urban folks. Also, the divorce seem higher among the 20–40 age group.
The environmental destruction around us and cultural destruction within us had made us less relaxed, more negative, weaker, judgmental and egoistic.
Until we follow the Sanatana Dharma and culture in originality and stop environment from getting destroyed, the divorce rates are only bound to increase.
Culture is a series of practices that define our lifestyles. The solution should involve lifestyle changes.


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Venkatrangan Gokul


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